About two weeks ago, report had surfaced that Emma, the wife of Emeka Ike, a popular Nollywood actor, had filed for divorce. Emma had asked the Lagos Island customary court to dissolve their 12-year-old marriage, saying she could no longer bear being tortured.
At the hearing on Wednesday, July 22, the actor failed to show up. According to his counsel, Abdul’Hakeem Labi-Lawal, Emeka was not in court because he was ill, The Nation reports. Labi-Lawal begged the court to give Emeka 6 months to see if there was a possibility of settlement between the couple adding that the actor was still in love with his wife.
Emma however said 6 months was too long adding that Emeka had 2 years to reconcile with her but he didn’t. In his ruling, the court’s President, Chief Awos Awosola, said the court could only grant two weeks.
“I am expecting Emeka Ike in this court if he really wants settlement,” he added. The matter was adjourned till August 12 for further hearing. Speaking after the court rose, Emma said she was not interested in the marriage anymore, wondering why her husband wanted reconciliation now, after 2 years she left her matrimonial home.
“If I was still with him, I may not survive. I was 19-year old when I met him and he was the one who deflowered me. I see no reason I shouldn’t be treated with utmost respect. Due to physical torture, my health has been affected. There was even a time I thought I had breast cancer because I felt a lump on one part of my breast,” she said.
The marriage produced four children between ages 4 and 13.
According to the wife, Emeka Ike took her children away from her and has turned them against her.
Emma said in tears: “Even when he didn’t allow me access to see our children, I spoke with them on several occasions but now, he doesn’t allow me anymore. My children are now against me.
“I almost went mad when my first son told me on phone that if I truly loved them, I wouldn’t have abandoned them. Even my seven-year-old son whose day wouldn’t be complete without seeing me said he doesn’t love me. I love my children. I miss my children. I never abandoned them. I am in pain. They don’t have any other mother. I really need my children. I am a good woman; I endured so many things as his wife.”
it is no fun being a man punching bag, as for her kids it will take a while for them to the kids she left behind. all you women should take your kids with you, if you can have a roof over your head and you eat ,then your kids should be with YOU.
ReplyDeletemy dear Emma, i understand you are bittered but separation is not a good thing in marriage, marriage isnt bed of roses. Put your home in the hands of God, no marriage is the best. Please go back home because of your kids, even if your hubby is misbehaving please endure and pray because of your kids future. you and your hubby are passing wrong information to your kids.please drop the charges.
ReplyDeleteAll u people that talk of reconciliation won't understand what she went through before she left her matrimonial home....women are dieing in the name of "endurance " men have turned to beast. ...she run for her dear life it's better for him to turn yo children against u than killing n raising them with alie that u died natural...The truth will always open n bear in mind they are yo children and will know the truth with time....Take heart Emma I understand more than any body
ReplyDeleteI can only pray for God's guidance in your life. May he guide you to make the best decision, according to his word.
Deletei understand how you feel Emma.Iwas a victim of a mans brutality but God gave me srenght and delivered me from him. Trust your God, he will not leave you at all. please take care of your self now,after your kids will come looking for you.
ReplyDeletei understand how you feel dear Emma. i was a victim of mans brutality,but God delivered me and gave me strenght to over co e.trust your God and take care of ylour self.As for your kids, God will vindicate you.
ReplyDeletevery sad, but i want you to know that marriage is like a pool, it is a game of luck or bad, my dear Emma i will advise you, for the sake of your kids, as you claim you love them to wildraw the divorce and reconsign with your husband, i don't want to know what may be the coast of your problem, always know that marriage is for better for wost
ReplyDeleteEmma only you and God knows what you went through, no woman would leave her children just like that, god is in charge and all is well, do not go back, it will not get better, it would only get worse, I went in that situation so I could tell you, be brave and strong, time will reveal the truth to your children, plenty respect
ReplyDeleteDear emma,honestly i understand how you feel in your marriage but one thing you must understand ,seperation is a taboo especially when children are involve. Please emma try to bring back your sweet family cos when you guys separated it will be very difficult to come back again,you see, when one no the penalty of an offence but goes on to commit it he or she must be ready to bear the brunt of such misdemeanour no matter how the tears shed sympathiser will be scanty or non existence.
ReplyDeleteEven if it means that she might die because of the abuse. I'm sure she wouldn't leave her precious kids if xe could bear with the situation.
DeletePrayer is all you need and you have to be truthful to yourself and to God.Firstly note your mistakes in your marriage.I can not support him but keep calm with prayer.Dont react.Those kids ddint apply to be born.They deserve the best love ever.You are both sinning by denying them the love,comfort and peace the d need from both of you.Please go back to your husband and if need be,both of you need counselling and God.Forget about what happened and begin afresh.God hates divorce so try to work it out.Its never too late wih God coz ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE TO THOSE THAT BELIEVE IN HIM.Please try.
ReplyDeleteEmma is you and only you know exactly what you have past through in his hand, because I believe no woman will abandon four children just like that. So is better you save your life now your children will understand and come for you in future. My mother inlaw have five boys for his husband she endure the pain and torture by her husband it was that same torture that kill her and live the children behind the man got married just after 1year of her death. Is the father and the new wife that will enjoy all that she has sacrifice for. women is better to be a divorcee than late mum.
ReplyDeleteDear Emma what ever is it please don't go in for the marriage to be dissolved but rather seek God intervention and fight for your children and husband. Also such yourself and asked what you might have to done to warrant such treatment. God does not want marriages to be dissolved. I want you to be prayerful and hope God intervene. It's very sad this things are happening to you but God will surely see you through.
ReplyDeletemarriage is a lifetime union so that is why we should be very careful not to make a life time error.but in this case you have to stay my dear for the sake of the children take heart
ReplyDeleteEmma, i understand you are bitterd but separation is not a good thing in marriage, but for you to died because of married better quick and run for your dear life when your children grown they will definitely look for you.
ReplyDeletefor a man to abondon his family for good 2 yrs the man is not a complete man, my dear emma you have endure too much. surely your kids will still remember you when they grow, just live every things to God.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is that ppl jump into conclusions without enough informations, if she was so good as she claims I don't see any reason/reasons why the man will abandon his matrimonial home for 2yrs .... There's something they are not telling....
ReplyDeletemarriage is for two people and not more only two of them know if they can endure each other or not beside it is just one part of the story we are getting the other party has not said anything they both wear their shoes they are the only ones to know how it sizes them we are not to judge or decide for anyone.Emma you know if you can endure or not
ReplyDeleteEmma, I understand your pain and is better to save ur life. you have to be okay so that u can take good care of ur kids. Am a mother of 3 kids, my husband almost killed me by pressing my neck the police came to my rescue and took me to the hospital. I was seriously hurt and started vomiting blood. Today am so happy living alone with my kids... Emma your life comes first, I pray to God to give you the fortitude to overcome the pain you re going through. Hang tough and all will be well. I knw it takes time to heal...
ReplyDeleteAnd always know this an abuser will always be an abuser......
Those days are gone when women would put up with anything just to keep a toxic marriage
Emma, please withdraw your case and go back home for the sake of the children
ReplyDeletewhen a couple are fighting the most implicated in the case are the children. Dear mother if you truly love your kids you don't have to live them. you should stay with them. if their father wants he can even go for twenty years. take care of your kids. they are your future and put your home in God is the only one that can make possible what is impossible. be in fait and pray.
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